7 signs you should marry your current partner by Natalia Lusinski on Apr 30, 2018, 10:43 AM Advertisement
 - Marriage is supposed to be lifelong commitment — choosing the right partner is a serious decision.
- According to relationship experts, there are several key indicators — like sharing life goals and being completely comfortable with each other — you can look for that help you decide if your current partner is marriage material.
- Here are 15 signs you should marry your current partner.
After dating someone for a while, you may assume that you and your significant other are headed in the direction of together forever. However, you may not be sure if they are “the one.” You two may get along great, but do you have key traits of couples who are in it for the long haul? Business Insider spoke to a couple of relationship experts for advice so you can see for yourself if you should marry your current partner. SEE ALSO: 9 things I wish I knew before I got married 1. You feel most like yourself when you're with them  Over the years, you’ve probably often heard the line, “You complete me” (thank you, “Jerry McGuire”). However, Jeffrey Sumber, psychotherapist and author of “Renew Your Wows: Seven Powerful Tools to Ignite the Spark and Transform Your Relationship,” feels there is more to it. “In spite of popular opinion and what’s said in movies, a partner doesn’t complete us,” he told Business Insider. “Although life with them feels complete, it’s more important to feel complete yourself. Meaning, you feel a sense of peace, a ‘rightness’ to your own life when you’re interacting with them, and feel most like yourself near them.” Relationship specialist Jen Elmquist, MA, LMFT, and author of “Relationship Reset: Secrets from a Couples Therapist That Will Revolutionize Your Love for a Lifetime,” agrees. “A sign is that your significant other makes you a better version of yourself,” she told Business Insider. You don’t have to hide anything about yourself from a partner who’s a good match for the long haul, Elmquist said. “They seem to know how to challenge you and accept you at the same time, giving you the courage and inspiration to grow.”
2. They pay attention to the small things  Another sign that you should marry your partner is that they not only pay attention to the big things that happen in your life, but they also celebrate the small things, too. “When your partner takes a genuine interest and authentic concern about the small things in your existence — from a troubling phone call with a family member to an irritating day at work — it’s another sign,” Sumber said. “The level of connection and healthy, safe attachment in a relationship can often be most evident in these seemingly minor issues, because our partner sits next to us and not above us,” he said.
3. You have kindness and mutual respect for each other  You’ve probably heard the phrase, “treat others how you want to be treated,” and that’s true when it comes to you and your partner, too. “When kindness is a shared primary value, it can mean great things for a relationship,” Sumber said. “When both partners lead with just being nice and respectful to one another, there is a good chance that you have stumbled onto a gem of a person, and they might inspire you to be even more gem-like, too.”
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