7 facts about relationships everyone should know before getting married by Mike Nudelman on Jan 5, 2017, 12:38 PM Advertisement
 Although fewer young people are getting married today than ever before, research suggests that getting and staying married is one of the best things you can do for yourself. As the New York Times concluded, "being married makes people happier and more satisfied with their lives than those who remain single — particularly during the most stressful periods, like midlife crises." Drake Baer contributed to this story. SEE ALSO: 8 ways to be happier in your relationship this year  A 2014 University of Pennsylvania study found that Americans who cohabitate or get married at age 18 have a 60% divorce rate. But people who waited until 23 to make either of those commitments had a divorce rate around 30%. "All of the literature explained that the reason people who married younger were more likely to divorce was because they were not mature enough to pick appropriate partners," the Atlantic reports.
 The honeymoon phase with its "high levels of passionate love" and "intense feelings of attraction and ecstasy, as well as an idealization of one's partner," doesn't last forever. According to a 2005 study by the University of Pavia in Italy, it lasts about a year.
 Once you start living together, you realize that you have different priorities and tolerances — like, for instance, what does or doesn't constitute a mess. "People have to come to terms with the reality that 'we really are different people,'" says couples therapist Ellyn Bader. "'You are different from who I thought you were or wanted you to be. We have different ideas, different feelings, different interests.'" It's a stressful — and necessary — evolution.
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